Saturday, May 31, 2014

We're Worse Listeners Than We Think...And How to Improve

My article today makes that case that we're  worse listeners than we think. It goes on to offers practical tips for improvement.

HERE is the link.

Friday, May 30, 2014

Self-Mentoring Has Advantages Over a Mentor

Don't have a mentor?  Self-mentoring offers advantages. My article today outlines them. HERE is the link.

Thursday, May 29, 2014

A Dog: A Not Standard Tool for Reducing Stress...and Increasing It

When the standard stress reducers don't work well, have you ever considered getting a dog?

My doggie, Einstein, is my best stress reducer...and stress increaser. He is the topic of my article today. HERE is the link.

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

“I’m Tired of Self-Improvement”: When self-acceptance is wiser

The topic of my article today: What should you keep trying to change about yourself and what should you accept as immutable? HERE is the link.

Monday, May 26, 2014

Decisionmaking Without Analysis Paralysis

Some people make even big decisions easily while others delay to their serious detriment.

Crisp decision-making and the avoiding of excessive rumination
is the topic of my article. HERE is the link. 

Sunday, May 25, 2014

Four Fast Ways to Boost Your Brainpower

Permanently improving your intelligence is tough but there are fast ways to give your brainpower a temporary boost. 

That's the topic of my article today. HERE is the link.

Saturday, May 24, 2014

Do You Really Need to Cure Your Perfectionism? And if so, how?

Perfectionism: Is it a problem? And if so, what to do about it?  

That's the topic of my article. HERE is the link.

Friday, May 23, 2014

On-the-Fly Stress Busters: Adult self-soothers that take just seconds

Many of us are too busy for the standard stress reducers like extended vacations or even an hour's break.  

So I've collected a dozen stress busters that can refresh you in just moments. That's my article today. HERE is the link.

Thursday, May 22, 2014

Waking Reverie: An underappreciated minute

That moment between sleep and walking may be our day's most underappreciated. I attempt to remedy that in my article today. HERE is the link.

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

A Deathbed Exercise

I created a version of the deathbed exercise, a useful tool for evaluating your life and seeing what, if any changes, you'd like to make. HERE is the link.

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

When You're Feeling Defeated

As we get older, especially if life has beaten us up, it becomes ever harder to come out of our corner for another round. My article today tries to provide realistic motivation to do so. HERE is the link.

Monday, May 19, 2014

Addressing the Imposter Syndrome

In just the last few days, two clients said they suffer from the imposter syndrome, professional self-doubt. So my article today shares my thoughts on how to address it. HERE is the link.

Sunday, May 18, 2014

To elicit change, does praise actually work better than criticism?

One of psychology's axioms is that to elicit change, one should generally praise more than criticize. My article questions the validity of that. HERE is the link.

Saturday, May 17, 2014

A Wiser Way to Choose a Therapist, Counselor, or Coach

My article today offers what I believe is a wiser way to select a therapist, counselor or coach than is traditionally recommended. HERE is the link.

Friday, May 16, 2014

Straight Talk About Changing Careers

The media tends to make changing careers appear easier than it usually is. 

I try to remedy that in my article today. HERE is the link.

Thursday, May 15, 2014

How I Became A Writer: An improbable story embedding both writing tips and life lessons

Today, a client said he was worried he couldn't become a good enough writer even to write reports as a data analyst. I decided to tell him the improbable story of how I became a writer. 

After, he said it not only taught him lessons on writing but on life.  So I decided to write up that story as my article today. HERE is the link.

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

In Praise of Serious People

We tend to like happy people and give serious people short-shrift. 

My article today encourages us to spend more time with serious sorts. HERE is the link.

Tuesday, May 13, 2014

When You Feel Like Hiding

Ever feel like your world is getting smaller and that that's okay?  

My article today is "When You Feel Like Hiding." HERE is the link.

Sunday, May 11, 2014

What If You Think You've Peaked?

Do you wonder if you've peaked? 

What to do is the topic of my article today. HERE is the link.

Saturday, May 10, 2014

Lookism Countered: Why You Might Want to PREFER Ugly People

Today, sexism and especially racism is subject to severe penalty. Witness Donald Sterling. In a private conversation with his half Black/half Latino girlfriend, he asked her not to bring Blacks to a game, later explaining that it was because he'd be jealous of her flirting with them. That was enough to topple a billionaire.

Yet lookism is widely accepted. My article today makes the case that preferring ugly people may be wise. HERE is the link.

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

My Articles with 2,000+ Facebook Likes

6/9/14 Update: Here's another one:
My article, Becoming a Better Listener has 6,400 Facebook Likes. And the total page views for my articles is now 468,000.

I've been gratified by the response to my articles on I've only been writing for it for six weeks and the audience has built rapidly: 168,700 page views in the past week alone. 

If you haven't seen my articles, you might want to see if any interest you. These might especially be worth a look: Each has already received more than 2,000 Facebook Likes:

Can Anyone Figure Out What Makes Us Tick? (2,400 Facebook Likes)

How Would You Rate Your Life? (3,500 Facebook Likes) 

Why Following Your Passion Can Backfire (3,800 Facebook Likes)

6 Secrets to Making the Most of Your Time (5,700 Facebook Likes)

How Can You Tell Who to Trust (10,000 Facebook Likes)

What To Do When You're Being Ignored. (10,000 Facebook Likes.)

What I Learned From Giving Money Away: A case for giving charity to individuals, not non-profits

My article today talks about how I gave money away to strangers and my wondering whether, despite losing the tax deduction, it's wiser to give money to individuals than to non-profits. HERE is the link.

Monday, May 5, 2014

What I'm Learning About Being Tactful and Acquiring More Emotional Intelligence

My article today is on what I'm learning about how to be tactful, acquiring more emotional intelligence.

Sunday, May 4, 2014

Unleashing Your Inner Ham: Overcoming fear of showing others your creative efforts

My article today: Unleashing Your Inner Ham.  

Many people would end up enjoying showing their creative efforts to others--their singing, writing, art, whatever. But they're scared. This article may help mitigate those fears.

Saturday, May 3, 2014

Finding the Will to Be Good

We all harbor less-than-benevolent thoughts.

Alas, we don't always have the discipline to restrain ourselves. Oh, for a little more impulse control. 

My may offer some help. HERE is the link. 

Friday, May 2, 2014

In Praise of Middle Adopters

My article today: In Praise of Middle Adopters.  

Early adopters get lots of praise and late adopters lots of criticism. I argue that here, the golden mean is the holy grail.

Thursday, May 1, 2014

Being Ignored: What to do when you feel you're treated with indifference

My article today: Dealing with Being Ignored: What to do when you feel you're treated with indifference. 

HERE is the link.