Wednesday, August 31, 2016
Subtle Distinctions: 32 pairs of words that aren't quite synonyms
Words matter. At least as a counselor, writer, and radio host, I have to think so. In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I list 32 pairs of near synonyms and why I choose to use one or the other.
Tuesday, August 30, 2016
On a Quote by Albert Bandura: How job satisfaction improves family life.
Albert Bandura, whom the American Psychological Association rated the 4th most influential psychologist of the 20th century said that while we well know that a bad worklife than affect family life, we don't as much appreciate how a good worklife affects family. I explain the potency of his assertion in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
Monday, August 29, 2016
"Close the 30-Million Word Gap!" Another correlation/causation error?
Preeminent psychologist Stephen Pinker and I question the latest magic pill for closing the achievement gap: "Close the 30-million word gap."
I explore that in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
I explore that in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
Sunday, August 28, 2016
How the End of Jobs Could Be a Good Thing
Most experts agree that automation and globalization will cause the loss of at least half of all jobs within the next couple of decades.
Many observers fear that will lead to massive unhappiness, civil unrest, or even Armageddon because people primally need work both to survive and for a sense of self.
I'm inclined to agree but that's a psychologically difficult future to live with, so I've been trying to come up a positive scenario. My PsychologyToday.com article today offers my best shot:
Saturday, August 27, 2016
On a Freud Quote: Why navel gazing is a bad idea.
Freud said, “Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise.” In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I argue that he's wrong.
On a Carl Rogers Quote
Next to Freud, Carl Rogers was ranked the 2nd most eminent clinical psychologist of the 20th century. He wrote:
In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I ask questions to help you decide whether, in a given situation, you're being defensive or are merely defending your worthy position?
In a person who is open to experience, each stimulus is freely relayed through the nervous system without being distorted by any process of defensiveness.Of course, Rogers isn't implying we never should defend ourselves. He's only saying that, to grow, we need to remain open to the possibility that criticism of us is deserved. The question is, "How do you know when you're in fact wrong yet are defending your position anyway?"
In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I ask questions to help you decide whether, in a given situation, you're being defensive or are merely defending your worthy position?
Thursday, August 25, 2016
On a B.F. Skinner Quote
What do I remember from my education? In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer my top-of-mind recollections. They're embarrassingly paltry.
Wednesday, August 24, 2016
Post-Presidency Career Advice for Obama, with lessons for us all
If I were President Obama's career advisor, of course, my counsel would be conditioned on his goals and desires, but in my PsychologyToday.com article today, I make suggestions based on his public track
record as someone committed to liberal causes and an exceptional
communicator.
Tuesday, August 23, 2016
Monday, August 22, 2016
An Ultra-Simple Way to Choose and Succeed in Your Career
The longer I've been a career counselor the more I've become convinced that the professionally recommended process is unnecessarily long.
I propose something far briefer in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
I propose something far briefer in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
Sunday, August 21, 2016
Ambition Versus Gratitude for What One Has
I've always been driven but I'm having to make peace with the reality that I probably won't achieve most of the big dreams I had when I was younger. I talk about it in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
Dangerous Thoughts: Which to suppress? Which to shine light on?
Which thoughts should we suppress? Which should we shine more light on?
In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I list some dangerous thoughts clients have revealed to me. Seeing them may remind you of some of yours.
In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I list some dangerous thoughts clients have revealed to me. Seeing them may remind you of some of yours.
Saturday, August 20, 2016
An Active Boy Writes to His Teacher
I was an active boy. I couldn't sit still in school. If Ritalin had been around then, I would have been put on it intravenously.
I wouldn't have had the self-awareness nor the moxie to write the letter I posted on PsychologyToday.com to any of my teachers but perhaps your seeing it will help parents who are trying to get the teacher to accommodate to their active child rather than putting him on that risky Ritalin leash.
I wouldn't have had the self-awareness nor the moxie to write the letter I posted on PsychologyToday.com to any of my teachers but perhaps your seeing it will help parents who are trying to get the teacher to accommodate to their active child rather than putting him on that risky Ritalin leash.
Thursday, August 18, 2016
On an Albert Ellis Quote
The famed cognitive-behavioral
therapist, Albert Ellis, said, "The best years of your life are the
ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame
them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you
control your own destiny. "
In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I argue he's being simplistic.
In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I argue he's being simplistic.
Wednesday, August 17, 2016
An Honest Letter ro a Therapist or Counselor
Patients and clients know they should be quite disclosing to their therapist or counselor but that can be difficult.
It may be worth putting it in writing. I offer a sample letter in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
It may be worth putting it in writing. I offer a sample letter in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
A Letter to Aliens
A group of British scientists led by Stephen Hawking is offering $1,000,000 in prizes for a letter that would be beamed to advanced civilizations elsewhere in the universe. One of their goals is to encourage we earthlings to be more self-reflective.
As my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer the letter I'd write.
As my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer the letter I'd write.
Monday, August 15, 2016
Your Child and Sports
I played college baseball, am a parent, coached a basketball team, and been career and personal coach to lots of people who played sports informally or in
leagues.
In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer some thoughts on how to parent wisely regarding sports.
In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer some thoughts on how to parent wisely regarding sports.
Sunday, August 14, 2016
Individiualized Management
So in comes Total Quality Management, 6-Sigma, Agile/Scrum, Management by Consensus, Theory Z, etc.
In truth, good management is the opposite of formulaic. It's individualized. Consistent with your work-group's mission, how can you maximize each supervisees' strengths while skirting their weaknesses. So the wise manager and leader sits down with each employee to craft an individualized approach.
My PsychologyToday.com article today offers key factors in individualized management.
Indoctrinating Young Children
If you don’t have a son, imagine you do.
In 1970, the ratio of males to females in college was 69% male. Now it’s 42%. Of course, that has profound impact today, when a college degree is virtually a prerequisite for good employment.
At age 10, boys commit suicide at a similar rate to girls but by age 25, the rate for males is five times as high.
Yet to look at societal efforts---governmental, education, media--one would think that female was the floundering sex.
For example, all movies have positive and negative characters, and women’s activist groups, recognizing the power of role models, have long demanded that females be disproportionately portrayed positively compared with white males. And they’ve had remarkable success including with cartoon movies aimed at young children.
My PsychologyToday.com article today describes the main characters in the the all-time biggest box-office cartoon movies and other iconic children's cartoon movies of the past two decades.
In 1970, the ratio of males to females in college was 69% male. Now it’s 42%. Of course, that has profound impact today, when a college degree is virtually a prerequisite for good employment.
At age 10, boys commit suicide at a similar rate to girls but by age 25, the rate for males is five times as high.
Yet to look at societal efforts---governmental, education, media--one would think that female was the floundering sex.
For example, all movies have positive and negative characters, and women’s activist groups, recognizing the power of role models, have long demanded that females be disproportionately portrayed positively compared with white males. And they’ve had remarkable success including with cartoon movies aimed at young children.
My PsychologyToday.com article today describes the main characters in the the all-time biggest box-office cartoon movies and other iconic children's cartoon movies of the past two decades.
Saturday, August 13, 2016
On a Cup of Coffee
It astounds me how many people and how much effort goes into making my cup of coffee possible. I lay it all out in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
Thursday, August 11, 2016
Escaping or Thriving in the Gig Economy
How
do you feel when you read the phrase "gig economy?" Many people feel
fear After all, it signals insecurity, the opposite of what most people
crave. In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I describe how to escape it or thrive in it.
Wednesday, August 10, 2016
Addressing Your Child's School Fears
For adults who liked school, back-to-school week was about the excitement of buying a new book bag, Crayola 64s, new clothes, and seeing who their teacher and classmates will be.
But for many children, such thoughts are dwarfed by fears of the teacher not liking them, being ostracized or bullied by classmates, or the work being too hard or easy.
My PsychologyToday.com article today offers suggestions for reducing those fears.
Tuesday, August 9, 2016
"Am I Too Old To Go Back to School?"
Even some people as young as 30 worry they're too old to go back to college or graduate school. They may fear they won't fit in socially, will have forgotten too much of what they
previously learned, will learn too slowly, and or forget too quickly.
Monday, August 8, 2016
When You Want to Persuade Someone
If a sailor hopes to make it to Hawaii, s/he must stay alert to the need to adjust a sail, change course, etc.
Similarly, in our conversations. we must we stay alert to the need to change tactics.
In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I discuss the situation in which an employee feels overworked and micromanaged.
Similarly, in our conversations. we must we stay alert to the need to change tactics.
In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I discuss the situation in which an employee feels overworked and micromanaged.
Sunday, August 7, 2016
"I Want to Work in the Non-Profit Sector?"
A caller to my radio program had only for-profit experience and wants to move into the nonprofit sector. Worse, she's been out of the paid workforce for years.
As my PsychologyToday.com contribution today, I post the edited transcript of our exchange.
As my PsychologyToday.com contribution today, I post the edited transcript of our exchange.
Stage Fright: A first-hand report
Tonight, I did the first performance of my one-man show Odd Man Out. I was nervous. In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I describe what I did to mitigate it.
Saturday, August 6, 2016
Your Neighbors
Today, as I walked my dog down my street, I thought about each of my
neighbors. Nothing profound but collectively, it reminded me of Our Town, the
classic play about Life Typical, in which you leave the theatre with
greater appreciation of our everyday lives and the people in them.
Although I've lived in my house for 40 years now, I know little about my neighbors. But thinking about them today has, for me, added humanness to a block that's like an egg crate--each of us in our own separate compartment and covered up.
My PsychologyToday.com article today offers my thoughts about my neighbors. Those snippets might contain a takeaway for your life or encourage you to reveal more about yourself to your neighbors or to ask them about themselves.
Although I've lived in my house for 40 years now, I know little about my neighbors. But thinking about them today has, for me, added humanness to a block that's like an egg crate--each of us in our own separate compartment and covered up.
My PsychologyToday.com article today offers my thoughts about my neighbors. Those snippets might contain a takeaway for your life or encourage you to reveal more about yourself to your neighbors or to ask them about themselves.
Thursday, August 4, 2016
The Ultimate Hypocrites: Ultra-Wealthy Donors
Wednesday, August 3, 2016
Should You Write a Book?
Is it worth the time to write a book? In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer an internal debate to help you clarify.
Should You Replace Your Car?
Other than perhaps a house or education, we spend more on buying cars than anything. The average cost of one is now $33,000 plus 68 months of interest.
Should you spring for one? As my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer an internal debate that may help you clarify.
Should you spring for one? As my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer an internal debate that may help you clarify.
Monday, August 1, 2016
Should You Be More Grateful or Less?
In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer an internal debate on whether a typical person should feel more grateful or less.
An Honest Conversation Between Boss and Employee
Most people feel they can't tell their boss or supervisee what they
really think. What might a completely honest conversation look like? That's my PsychologyToday.com article today.