A new Brookings study supports previous ones that automation will indeed take lots of jobs, and many of the remaining ones will require interacting substantively with technology.
My PsychologyToday.com article today talks about how to thrive or at least survive in our brave new world.
Sunday, March 31, 2019
Saturday, March 30, 2019
Friday, March 29, 2019
Toward Counselors Making Better Judgment Calls
I'll soon start teaching a course on counseling
and have been thinking, “What’s the most important thing I can teach my
students?” It’s not theoretical models or even practical tactics. It’s
the art of judgment.
My PsychologyToday.com article today offers common decisions a counselor has to make and the thought process I go through before deciding what to do:
My PsychologyToday.com article today offers common decisions a counselor has to make and the thought process I go through before deciding what to do:
Thursday, March 28, 2019
The Case for Opting Out: Maybe some people shouldn't grow up?
I’ve previously written The Peter Pan Syndrome: why some people just won’t grow up. In essence, it was The Parent Lecture: an attempt to guilt-trip
kick-back partiers into becoming responsible, self-supporting human
beings. Although it was a mere blog post on Psychology Today, it has
received 238,650 views.
I’m not sure it’s defensible but because, contrary to today’s zeitgeist, there often are lessons to be learned from across the spectrum, my PsychologyToday.com article today offers my best shot in defense of the Peter Pan Syndrome.
I’m not sure it’s defensible but because, contrary to today’s zeitgeist, there often are lessons to be learned from across the spectrum, my PsychologyToday.com article today offers my best shot in defense of the Peter Pan Syndrome.
Wednesday, March 27, 2019
An Advanceed Lesson in Networking
I know, I know. You’re sick of hearing that you should network. But unless you’re one of the small percentage of people who love networking or whose career is where you want it and likely to stay that way, you probably need to network more, whether online and/or in-person.
That’s true even if you’re not looking for a job: Networking can create a stable of connections who can clue you in on new best practices, ground-floor trends, shortcuts to advanced certifications, etc. But networking is particularly compelling for people looking for a good job.
My PsychologyToday.com article today explains why and, importantly, how to do it well.
That’s true even if you’re not looking for a job: Networking can create a stable of connections who can clue you in on new best practices, ground-floor trends, shortcuts to advanced certifications, etc. But networking is particularly compelling for people looking for a good job.
My PsychologyToday.com article today explains why and, importantly, how to do it well.
Tuesday, March 26, 2019
Negotiating Compensation in a Time of Low Unemployment
This could be a good time to negotiate your compensation: Unemployment is near a 50-year low and wage growth has been, perhaps surprisingly, twice as fast for the bottom half of earners than for the top half.
My PsychologyToday.com article today offers an ultra-short course in negotiation
My PsychologyToday.com article today offers an ultra-short course in negotiation
Saturday, March 23, 2019
Procrastinating Doing Your Taxes?
Like most people, I don’t enjoy preparing my income tax returns. And
sure, I could hire an accountant to do it, but s/he requires me to do
most of the work anyway: separating all the income sources and deduction
receipts, so I do my own.
Before and during the process, I’m tempted to procrastinate—and often succumb. I prefer even cleaning to doing my taxes: My house has never been cleaner: from toilets to, would you believe, the dust just underneath the rugs.
Yet, here we are on March 23, more than three weeks before the April 15 deadline and my tax returns are almost done. Perhaps you might find it helpful to see how I avoided needing an extension. I tell all in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
Before and during the process, I’m tempted to procrastinate—and often succumb. I prefer even cleaning to doing my taxes: My house has never been cleaner: from toilets to, would you believe, the dust just underneath the rugs.
Yet, here we are on March 23, more than three weeks before the April 15 deadline and my tax returns are almost done. Perhaps you might find it helpful to see how I avoided needing an extension. I tell all in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
Wednesday, March 20, 2019
In Praise of the Imposter Syndrome: "Accept yourself" is a destructive fad.
Today’s motivational gurus are hell-bent on boosting our self-esteem: “We’re okay just as we are.” “We are worthy just by virtue of being human.” “There's genius in all of us!" Hah!
Thinking you’re great is a fast way to ensure you stagnate, probably in mediocrity...or worse—There’s no need to work on growing if you already think you’re fine.
A common manifestation of low self-esteem is the Imposter Syndrome: You have a degree that says you’re a qualified professional but you feel you aren’t one. That’s often an accurate assessment because school-based training, often longer on theory and arcana than on practice and essentials, can easily leave you less than real-world competent. That’s why, for example, many law firms provide extensive post-law-school training for their newly hired lawyers.
The answer to the imposter syndrome is not to dismiss it. My PsychologyToday.com article today tells what to do instead.
Thinking you’re great is a fast way to ensure you stagnate, probably in mediocrity...or worse—There’s no need to work on growing if you already think you’re fine.
A common manifestation of low self-esteem is the Imposter Syndrome: You have a degree that says you’re a qualified professional but you feel you aren’t one. That’s often an accurate assessment because school-based training, often longer on theory and arcana than on practice and essentials, can easily leave you less than real-world competent. That’s why, for example, many law firms provide extensive post-law-school training for their newly hired lawyers.
The answer to the imposter syndrome is not to dismiss it. My PsychologyToday.com article today tells what to do instead.
Monday, March 18, 2019
The Fun and Benefits of Type-A Behavior
A 1959 journal article
reported that Type A behavior—what’s often called “hurry sickness” and a
tendency to get angry, increases risk of cardiovascular disease.
But a more recent review of the literature in the American Journal of Public Health found that a number of follow-up studies failed to confirm the claim. The authors of that review concluded that studies prominently reporting that link between Type-A behavior and heart disease were funded by the tobacco industry as a way to deflect attention from cigarette smoking causing heart disease.
It may nevertheless still be that, when the, ahem, smoke clears, Type-A behavior, especially its angry variant, will be shown to at least modestly contribute to cardiovascular disease. And there’s little doubt that an angry personality usually results in ostracism and less influence.
But rather than dismissing Type-A behavior as such a bad characteristic that all efforts should be made to quell it, it might be worth considering its upsides. I outline them in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
But a more recent review of the literature in the American Journal of Public Health found that a number of follow-up studies failed to confirm the claim. The authors of that review concluded that studies prominently reporting that link between Type-A behavior and heart disease were funded by the tobacco industry as a way to deflect attention from cigarette smoking causing heart disease.
It may nevertheless still be that, when the, ahem, smoke clears, Type-A behavior, especially its angry variant, will be shown to at least modestly contribute to cardiovascular disease. And there’s little doubt that an angry personality usually results in ostracism and less influence.
But rather than dismissing Type-A behavior as such a bad characteristic that all efforts should be made to quell it, it might be worth considering its upsides. I outline them in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
Knowing When to Decide
My just-concluded career counseling session motivated me to write my PsychologyToday.com article today.
My client has a PhD and is looking for a post-doc in a narrow specialty. He believes that eventually, he needs to reach out to some of the field’s heavy hitters to get guidance as to where to turn but, week after week now, he continues to do more research to try to figure out who the right people are. He’s still not sure. He admits this is a manifestation of his lifelong problem with excessive rumination and inadequate action.
By the end of the session, he felt far more optimistic he can ameliorate his problem. My PsychologyToday.com article today. offers lessons he learned in that session. They're applicable to personal as well as professional life.
My client has a PhD and is looking for a post-doc in a narrow specialty. He believes that eventually, he needs to reach out to some of the field’s heavy hitters to get guidance as to where to turn but, week after week now, he continues to do more research to try to figure out who the right people are. He’s still not sure. He admits this is a manifestation of his lifelong problem with excessive rumination and inadequate action.
By the end of the session, he felt far more optimistic he can ameliorate his problem. My PsychologyToday.com article today. offers lessons he learned in that session. They're applicable to personal as well as professional life.
Friday, March 15, 2019
Create Your Solo Show: How, and why you should even if you never perform it.
One of my life’s more rewarding experiences has been to create my autobiographical one-man show, Odd Man Out.
My PsychologyToday.com article today explains, step-by-step, how I did it and you might too.
My PsychologyToday.com article today explains, step-by-step, how I did it and you might too.
Thursday, March 14, 2019
Choosing a Career: An unconventional approach
Most people end up in their career sub-optimally:
In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer an approach that would seem to balance ease with accuracy.
- They fall into their careers by chance.
- They pick from a few common choices: doctor lawyer, teacher, electrician, psychologist, etc.
- With a career advisor, human, video, computer, or text, they inventory, abilities, skills, interests (if they have them, passions), and values.
- It too often yields unrealistic goals—For example, the person dreams of making a solid living as an environmentalist, performer, sports executive, or visual artist. Unless you’re brilliant, talented, connected, or dogged, ideally all the above, they'll why the words “starving” and “artist” so often adjoin.
- Most careers don’t require a narrowly constrained set of attributes. For example, there are introverted and extroverted psychotherapists, brilliant and merely workmanlike ones, sciencey and feeling-oriented ones.
- There are tens of thousands of careers, most that have many variants. Even with a computer to screen careers, you’ll be (not very validly) matched to a few from just a few hundred. Much better fits could remain buried.
In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer an approach that would seem to balance ease with accuracy.
Tuesday, March 12, 2019
In Search of Wisdom: My 13 favorite ideas.
It would be hubristic of me to assert that these attempts at wisdom have reached that high bar, but my Psychology Today article today offers my best shots.
Sunday, March 10, 2019
Developing a Winning Personality
Even some brilliant people suffer professionally and personally from the lack of a likeable personality.
And some such people don’t care: “I don’t want to play their silly games.” But if you do care to, as the classic book, said, “win friends and influence people,” perhaps one or more of the tips I offer in my PsychologyToday.com article today will help:
And some such people don’t care: “I don’t want to play their silly games.” But if you do care to, as the classic book, said, “win friends and influence people,” perhaps one or more of the tips I offer in my PsychologyToday.com article today will help:
Friday, March 8, 2019
Making Remote Work Work
Whether you call in telecommuting or remote work, it would seem to be a slam-dunk idea. Workers avoid
painful commutes, can work in their comfies, and there’s no
fire-breathing boss looking over their should to be sure they didn’t
dare email their honey or check the March Madness bracket.
Employers benefit by needing less office space, they can recruit to find the best workers even if far-flung rather than just locally. And employers can attract and retain better employees who are in-demand enough to avoid jobs requiring an ever longer, stressful commute, after which employees arrive at work half-exhausted before they even start work.
Yet most employers still demand butts in the office. Why and what can be done to make remote work for employers and employees. I offer suggestions in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
Employers benefit by needing less office space, they can recruit to find the best workers even if far-flung rather than just locally. And employers can attract and retain better employees who are in-demand enough to avoid jobs requiring an ever longer, stressful commute, after which employees arrive at work half-exhausted before they even start work.
Yet most employers still demand butts in the office. Why and what can be done to make remote work for employers and employees. I offer suggestions in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
Thursday, March 7, 2019
Why Career Counseling Clients Fail
How-to writers tend to present success stories. I’m guilty of that. But of course, much can be learned from failure.
So in my PsychologyToday.com article today, I describe common ways in which career counseling clients fail and what individuals and counselors can do to help.
So in my PsychologyToday.com article today, I describe common ways in which career counseling clients fail and what individuals and counselors can do to help.
Wednesday, March 6, 2019
Critical Incidents in Parenting
Even with a typical child, parenting is hard and important. It’s
ironic that schools prefer to teach geometry and chemistry but not
parenting.
My PsychologyToday.com article today offers thoughts and sample dialogues on common critical incidents in parenting. After, I list some undergirding principles.
My PsychologyToday.com article today offers thoughts and sample dialogues on common critical incidents in parenting. After, I list some undergirding principles.
Monday, March 4, 2019
The Anxious Employee
All of us can get anxious at work, for example, if we have an upcoming performance review by an unreasonable boss.
But some people are anxious too much of the time, and the anxiety doesn’t dissipate when they enter the workplace door. If that sounds like you, might any of the ideas I offer in my PsychologyToday.com article today help?
But some people are anxious too much of the time, and the anxiety doesn’t dissipate when they enter the workplace door. If that sounds like you, might any of the ideas I offer in my PsychologyToday.com article today help?