tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post3374010035099033466..comments2024-03-17T00:13:44.599-07:00Comments on Marty Nemko: How I Counsel Unhappy CouplesMarty Nemkohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14850388752934193821noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-72108320391812260372013-04-18T22:22:12.149-07:002013-04-18T22:22:12.149-07:00Marty, as a counsellor and couples 'calm coach...Marty, as a counsellor and couples 'calm coach' I love this article - has some great advice.. will be perusing your articles a bit further, just found this via google search. Thanks for your writing!<br /><br />Elise<br />www.calmcoach.com.au<br />Elisehttp://www.calmcoach.com.aunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-33631968172765189222012-01-17T18:31:10.230-08:002012-01-17T18:31:10.230-08:00Yes, often tackling big problems, a bit at a time,...Yes, often tackling big problems, a bit at a time, not only improves that little problem, but starts positive momentum, and often yields insights into larger issues in the relationship. As the old riddle asks, "How to you eat an elephant?" A bite at a time.<br /><br />And my clients have found the finger technique invaluable--It greatly reduces the possibility of those sniping arguments that cause more problems than they solve. <br /><br />I must say that nearly all my clients who have tried this technique have said it improved their relationship, and one couple said it saved their marriage, which otherwise would have been dissolved. Better, two years later, they say they're glad they decided to stay together. (And her was quite a tough guy--a lawyer--and she was a psychotherapist.)Marty Nemkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14850388752934193821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-86132263260002148312012-01-16T16:16:54.744-08:002012-01-16T16:16:54.744-08:00So, let me get this straight. You counsel couples...So, let me get this straight. You counsel couples who are on the verge of divorce, by telling them to address small symptoms (like someone leaving clothes on the floor) rather than addressing underlying causes of the relationship rupture...hmmm, wonder how that is working out for the majority of your clients? <br /><br />And you counsel the 'neat partner' to raise a finger at the 'messy partner' like they are their parent, or something?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com