tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post4536616197993367600..comments2024-03-17T00:13:44.599-07:00Comments on Marty Nemko: Advice to a Procrastinating ChoreographerMarty Nemkohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14850388752934193821noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-57706226087664523272008-08-13T22:24:00.000-07:002008-08-13T22:24:00.000-07:00Living the dream, without the financial compensati...Living the dream, without the financial compensation, should be its own reward. I know two songwriters. One wants to BE successful. The other one IS successful. The unsuccessful one says, "What's he got that I haven't got?" I say, "He writes songs, not because he wants to be successful, but because he can't help but write songs. It is his passion. He'd do it for free." If being a fight choreographer is this guy's goals, he should go for it, but if it doesn't work out, there are other ways to stay connected to such an interesting industry. As has been written in Marty's career articles, it's ok if these passions are fulfilled as hobbies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-1896144649645083962008-07-29T16:23:00.000-07:002008-07-29T16:23:00.000-07:00At his stage in life--21 and single--it's okay for...At his stage in life--21 and single--it's okay for him to take a year or two trying to achieve his dream. (It really is his dream job.) Even if it doesn't work, he will have gotten into the habit of working hard and also will likely have made some connections into some other line of work, connections that will likely be more helpful than those he has now. He also will have felt that he didn't abandon his dream without giving it a good shot. He'll thus feel better about himself and the way he's living his life.Marty Nemkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14850388752934193821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-50357957629059577702008-07-29T16:18:00.000-07:002008-07-29T16:18:00.000-07:00The sad thing is that even if your client follows ...The sad thing is that even if your client follows your advice to the letter, chances are he'll never come close to making a decent living doing what he loves. Have you prepared him for this probability? Does he have a Plan B?<BR/><BR/>I say this as one whose career dreams were put to death after being found guilty of violating the law of supply and demand. I'm now serving life at--well, perhaps not hard, but unrewarding labor. I hope to be paroled (retired) in 20 years or so.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-68432219738556025102008-07-29T16:10:00.000-07:002008-07-29T16:10:00.000-07:00He agreed and, in the next session, we'll map out ...He agreed and, in the next session, we'll map out the step-by-step specific plan. What will be interesting is to see the extent to which he follows through and then, whether I'm successful in getting him to follow through better.Marty Nemkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14850388752934193821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-80485451748757042632008-07-29T15:20:00.000-07:002008-07-29T15:20:00.000-07:00I'm curious. How did he respond?I'm curious. How did he respond?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-25956134898368419172008-07-29T13:58:00.000-07:002008-07-29T13:58:00.000-07:00There is a point at which this particular career q...There is a point at which this particular career question gets answered. I think Marty has it right, the question gets answered sooner, not later. There's an inventory of important steps he would need to take just in order to get his name on the page. Then once there, the decision ultimately comes from the outside. <BR/><BR/>It's also only in the doing, especially of the least desirable steps, that one can learn the real truth about whether or not a dream job is a realistic goal. Once he throws himself into it, he might realize that it isn't meant to be. And this could end up being a blessing. He could then discover a different or related opportunity he would never have even thought of otherwise.Stephenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14052835417703700682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-60439208597789260662008-07-29T10:29:00.000-07:002008-07-29T10:29:00.000-07:00Great post and example, Marty. Also Jeff's commen...Great post and example, Marty. Also Jeff's comment rings very true.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-6341076049493639582008-07-29T09:26:00.000-07:002008-07-29T09:26:00.000-07:00Marty - As a public speaker I can't tell you how o...Marty - As a public speaker I can't tell you how often people come to me and say something like, "I want your job - how can I do what you do?" (I resist the temptation to start with the response: "Step one: go get 25 years of experience.") Invariably I give these people a simple assignment: write down in two paragraphs the message you want to bring to the world and send it to me. In almost every case I never hear from these people again. I have seen first hand that is action, not desire, that proves your commitment. JeffAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com