tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post8743478869698697723..comments2024-03-17T00:13:44.599-07:00Comments on Marty Nemko: Why Men Don't Listen to WomenMarty Nemkohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14850388752934193821noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-55460863248395763342012-06-24T21:54:54.942-07:002012-06-24T21:54:54.942-07:00I was tempted to not respond to your cherry-picked...I was tempted to not respond to your cherry-picked unfair response. Alternately, I was tempted to write a line-by-line refutation. Instead, I've decided it's wisest to simply refer you to two recent posts of mine that I believe constitute a reasonable rejoinder: <br /><br />http://martynemko.blogspot.com/2012/06/our-approach-to-men-reinvented-special.html<br /><br />http://martynemko.blogspot.com/2012/06/on-fathers-day-ode-to-men.htmlMarty Nemkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14850388752934193821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-29414782158974902092012-06-23T14:08:09.936-07:002012-06-23T14:08:09.936-07:00Are you kidding me? For a man of such intelligence...Are you kidding me? For a man of such intelligence, you sure are a base sexist. Plus, as supported by the comments, you have a readership comprised of a number of women who buy into this form of misogyny. Rather than suggest ways of making relationships with this sort of dynamic more healthy, you opt to go along with the old "women need to hash out their feelings, you bet they will bring up every instance you screwed up in the past, here she goes again about AGENCY, the poor men can't get a word in OH NOES WHAT ABOUT TEH MENZ???"trope. But at least he'll get a BEEJ out of it. <br /><br />Yeah, men have it rough. They only get listened to and respected more than women, oh, everywhere in life. Including at home. Shut the hell up and listen to your wives. Maybe if you weren't so unaware of your privilege, you'd actually be receptive to these women and there would be no need for them to be "communicative."<br /><br />By the way, I'm a Mensan, too. I sought your blog because I saw your piece in this month's Mensa bulletin and was interested in your work coaching high IQ adults. Needless to say, I'm not so interested anymore.Doofhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00294158821766175763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-57964209991173371442011-01-17T08:36:00.004-08:002011-01-17T08:36:00.004-08:00Anonymous, isn't the more interesting question...Anonymous, isn't the more interesting question, "WHY don't men listen more to women?" I suspect that, framed as it is, the debate will unfairly result in men being, yet again, treated unfairly relative to their merit? As I wrote in this post, men often stop listening to women--but for wise reasons.Marty Nemkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14850388752934193821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-66563626015855521452011-01-17T05:04:11.897-08:002011-01-17T05:04:11.897-08:00hello - we're holding a debate on whether men ...hello - we're holding a debate on whether men listen to women on Tuesday 8 March at Dartmouth House in London - email susan.conway@esu.org for tickets (£5)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-88638961235428975042010-12-26T15:09:41.382-08:002010-12-26T15:09:41.382-08:00I guess I'm rather man-like in my communicatio...I guess I'm rather man-like in my communications, too. Like Anonymous 8:08am, I'm tired of listening to other women vent about problems they could easily solve by growing "a pair" and doing that they already know needs to be done. A coworker whom I cannot escape is driving me up the wall with her drama, when it's clear for anyone with ears that she is only happy when she feels persecuted.<br /><br />Thanks for changing the picture, Marty. I couldn't bring myself to read the post while it was there but checked back today to see if you'd removed it.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10113066908492630343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-42588892834836003402010-12-26T10:52:09.358-08:002010-12-26T10:52:09.358-08:00It is because of men's propensity to want to s...It is because of men's propensity to want to solve problems that we enjoy things like clean drinking water, iPhones, supermarkets, SUVs, malls, and mammograms.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-89308820631153758392010-12-26T08:08:53.835-08:002010-12-26T08:08:53.835-08:00I relate to this. As a woman, I am tired of being...I relate to this. As a woman, I am tired of being viewed as "cold" because I don't want to listen to yet another woman's angst-filled description of a solvable problem. I'm about to cut a friend loose for this reason. Too many monologues about issues with no interest in solutions. Not at all constructive.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-65001890796889249832010-12-26T00:15:15.532-08:002010-12-26T00:15:15.532-08:00Re the original picture, two readers complained th...Re the original picture, two readers complained that it was unnecessarily prurient, and because I didn't want to distract readers from its serious message, I chose to replace it.Marty Nemkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14850388752934193821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-86873859543998267312010-12-26T00:12:47.613-08:002010-12-26T00:12:47.613-08:00Thanks. Fixed.Thanks. Fixed.Marty Nemkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14850388752934193821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-79708086699969082252010-12-25T20:01:44.545-08:002010-12-25T20:01:44.545-08:00Deborah Tannen is a professor at Georgetown Univer...Deborah Tannen is a professor at Georgetown University.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7821345570811107481.post-90194796542283884122010-12-25T17:59:09.810-08:002010-12-25T17:59:09.810-08:00Hey, what happened to the original image for this ...Hey, what happened to the original image for this post?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com