Dating websites have revolutionized dating. Sure, there’s some lying and deceptive photos but enough truth to enable people to find more and better matches than just with getting set up, singles dances, and bars.
It surprises me that the dating-website paradigm hasn’t been applied more broadly, for example, in pairing psychotherapist with client. After all, client success is so dependent on being well-matched.
I have some thoughts on how shrinkmatch.net might work. I describe them in my PsychologyToday.com article today in hopes that one or more readers decides to make it happen.
Often, it’s irrational for an employer to hire a career
changer. Why hire someone with no experience when a simple online ad
can usually, for similar salary, yield someone experienced?
How can a career changer make an employer do the irrational? Make him or her fall in love with you. I’m not talking about romantic love (although that’s been known to work.) I explain what I am talking about in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
I gotta say it felt pretty good to have a long line of folks wanting to buy and have me autograph my book, Careers for Dummies, after my talk
in a Stanford Distinguished Speaker Series.
For the next five days, my new book, Poems Practical: Clear, oft contrarian musings on love, work, life, Velveeta, etc. is free, in Kindle version.
The print version is expensive ($53) because the book contains hundreds of full-color illustrations. So if you want the book in print, you might prefer the black-and-white version: $14.
I’ll admit it, I’m obsessed with being maximally productive. That’s
because my definition of the life well-led is to make the biggest
difference possible. Even if my abilities were severely limited, I
believe I’d spend as many hours as possible being the best damn
tree-hole digger, friend, and parent I could possibly be.
I don’t expect you to be as committed to maximum productivity
as I am but perhaps my lifetime obsession with that puts me in a
position to suggest some ideas for you. Perhaps at least one of those I offer in my PsychologyToday.com article today will
intrigue you enough to try.
Since 2009, I’ve posted 5,116 tweets, which archive my best ideas. Here
on Psychology Today, I periodically post the best and most relevant to
this blog’s title, How to Do Life. Here’s the best of the current crop.
Clients of helping professionals often have a career
problem: Perhaps they’re unable to figure out what career to pursue, or
can’t find a job—or keep one.
Before sending your client to a career
counselor, you might try one or more of the tactics I offer in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
When deciding to learn something, most people take a course, get a
certificate or degree, study on their own. They often overlook tutoring
and its potent variant: learner-directed tutoring. My PsychologyToday.com article today describes how it works and its advantages and drawbacks.
Other career
counselors consult with me about how to improve their practice. A
common concern they raise is, “What should I do about clients who don’t
do their homework? My PsychologyToday.com article today describes what I tell them and I do with my clients.
UC Berkeley extension occasionally opens its doors to the public to hear a talk. I am honored that for the 3rd time, I've been chosen to give this public lecture. The topic: Changing Careers: Myths and Best Practices. Oct 30, 6:30 PM. It's free but you must register: HERE is the link.
Sometimes, a less competent practitioner gets more clients a more
competent one. Often, the answer lies in marketing. My PsychologyToday.com article today offers tips that have
helped my clients obtain more clients.
My typical client has a bachelor’s degree but doesn’t know what
career to pursue. Often, they’re interested in many things but no one
career stands out. Or their abilities aren’t specific enough to suggest a
career path. For example, they know they’re intelligent, sociable,
detail-oriented, or artistic, but that doesn’t sufficiently narrow the
options. Or their interests are shared by so many people—non-profit
work, entertainment, the media, fashion, sports, or the arts—that it’s hard to find a decent-paying job in those.
Best practice would be to be thorough, per my book, Careers for Dummies. But I thought you might find it useful to know what such people end up doing. Most of them do one of five things. I describe them in my PsychologyToday.com article today.
Today, a fellow career
coach asked me to troubleshoot her private practice. Our session
revealed ethical concerns. While some of these are particular to career coaching/counseling, others are applicable to any helping professional in private practice. In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I describe those ethical lapses and ways around them.
We’ve come to a place where “white male” is usually used only
derogatorily: “White males are the beneficiary of (unearned) privilege,
oppressor of women and people of color, perpetrators of havoc, from
Hitler to Kavanaugh.
My PsychologyToday.com article today asserts this is unjust and issues a plea for fairness.
Many factors restrict the validity of many research findings. In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I point those out and offer lots of examples of where I've prioritized common sense over the research findings du jour.
ABC’s 20-20 did a feature on Cisco Systems’ CEO John Chambers called
“The Best Boss in America.” And Chambers grew his company from 400
employees to 70,000 including 10,000 who became millionaires. In
addition, he’s been advisor to presidents Clinton and Bush and French
President Macron, Indian Prime Minister Narendra Modi, Israeli President
and Nobel Peace Prize winner Shimon Peres, and King Abdullah of Jordan
and thus named one of TIME’s 100 most influential people in the world.
He's written a new book: Connecting the Dots: Lessons for Leadership in a Startup World.
I interviewed him on my KALW (NPR-San Francisco) radio program, Work with Marty Nemko. My PsychologyToday.com article today offers edited highlights:
Fired? Standard advice is to take some time to process it, grieve, reassess.
My clients have found that poor advice. They’ve found that the longer they “process,” the harder it is to move forward. The bad thoughts stay top-of-mind because of the revisiting and revisiting the “unfairness” of it all.
My clients have found the advice I give in my PsychologyToday.com article today to be more helpful than extended time off to process.
