Friday, May 24, 2019

Not-Full Disclosure: Withholding and lying to helping professionals

All of us have not told all to our helping professionals. And sometimes with good reason. But my article today should help you decide when it's wise to disclose, and if you're a helping professional, how to encourage disclosure.

Wednesday, May 22, 2019

Recovering from Big Mistakes: Career or relationship

We’re all subject to commitment bias. We commit to a career or spouse and understandably, it’s scary to change. It’s been said that the only person who likes change is a wet baby.

Sure, people change careers and people divorce, but at the risk of being contrarian, I don’t think they do it enough.

I make the case in my article today and describe the low-risk baby steps you might take.

Tuesday, May 21, 2019

Beware Pop Psych Fast Fixes

Accepting your limitations is out of fashion. We all need hope that we can be excellent.

Indeed, many of the popular  pop psych gurus—excellent at selling—insist that you can be much better if only you follow their simple plan, for example, raise your expectations!  Reframe!  Have grit!  A growth mindset!  Power pose! Be fabulous!

Unfortunately, logically and empirically, such nostrums are longer on appeal than on real-world-significant results. In my article today, I defend that assertion and describe approaches that are both more research-sound and reflect my experience with 5,500 clients.

Sunday, May 19, 2019

Connect with me on LinkedIn What to Say in 9 More Ticklish Situations

In response to my recent post, What to Say in 16 Ticklish Situations,  a commenter asked me to write another post that said how I'd respond in nine other ticklish situations. Okay.

Saturday, May 18, 2019

What to Say in 16 Ticklish Situations: Tips on difficult conversations

In ticklish situations., we often get nervous if not downright tongue-tied.
Of course, the right thing to say varies with the situation and protagonists but perhaps the examples I offer in my article today can be instructive.

Wednesday, May 15, 2019


A students in the course on career counseling I’m teaching suggested I compile my “Nemkoisms” in a book. I don’t have enough to fill a book but perhaps there’s enough for an article. It's my contribution today.

Monday, May 13, 2019

Contrarian Career Nuggets

I’m teaching a graduate course in career counseling. When I was a student, having remembered little from the mountains I was expected to read, I’m ruthlessly curating what I’m having my students read. For example, I'll be handing out a collection of contrarian ideas that have most helped my clients. It's my article today.