Unsuccessful in Love? 12 questions that can unearth new hope

You’ve tried, perhaps tried a lot, to meet that, as they now say, special someone. With the plethora of dating advice out there, it would be hubristic of me to assert that I could offer you much that’s new. But you may find a distillation useful. 

So, my PsychologyToday.com article today offers 12 questions that could tease out something you want to do differently, in finding a new relationship, improving a current one, or resurrecting a past one.

Marty Nemko Gives a Public Lecture at UC Berkeley Extension: Changing Careers: Myths and best Practices

I return to U.C. Berkeley Extension to give my third public lecture. This one Changing Careers: Myths and Best Practices.

For information and registration:
www.eventbrite.com/e/changing-careers-myths-and-best-practices-tickets-48925966884 …

"Why Can't I Get Into Graduate School?"

This is the third installment in a series, "Why not me?!" The first was Why Can't I Land a Job? The second was Why Can't I Get Promoted?  

My PsychologyToday.com article today offers ideas for people who tried and failed to get into an acceptable graduate program and would like to give it another try.

"Why Can't I Get Promoted?!"

This is the second in the series, "Why Not Me?!"  

The first was, "Why Can't I Land a Job? 

Here we turn to people who are employed, believe they deserve a promotion but are frustrated that they haven't gotten one. A typical lament, “Some people who got promoted are much less competent and hard working than I am!”

What’s a good employee who’s constantly passed over to do? My PsychologyToday.com article today addresses the issue.

The ideas derive from my new book, Careers for Dummies.

The "Pretirement Sabbatical"

You’re thinking of retiring in the next few years. You might not find it fun to think about that, so you suppress thoughts of retirement. Or if you think about it, you focus on retirement savings, activities in retirement, and so on.

But there’s a usually overlooked opportunity for your pre-retirement years. I call it the pretirement sabbatical. It’s a variation on the professor’s sabbatical, that six-month or year-long unpaid release from regular duties to acquire a new skill or knowledge while reinvigorating one’s motivation. But unlike the traditional sabbatical, the pretirement sabbatical is not primarily to enhance your career but to set the stage for your central retirement activity.

In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer examples, including for people employed in situations in which it would seem approval would be unlikely.

"Why Can't I Get Hired?!" Help for the discouraged job seeker

So often, my clients apply for jobs they feel well qualified for, apply solid tactics in writing the cover letter, including collateral material, and in the interviews, follow-up, and references. They're optimistic and then, they don’t get the job. And that occurs in job application after job application.

Not infrequently, they learn of who got the job and are shocked or angry: “That person was far less qualified than I am!”

What’s a good job seeker who’s constantly passed over to do?
I offer help in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Ghosting at Work

The term “ghosting” originated in the dating world, in which, to avoid the awkwardness of saying, “No,” the person just goes silent: stops returning calls, emails, and texts.

Alas, ghosting has metastasized into the work world. As my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer the Ghosted's 3-Step as a way to respond to getting ghosted, as well as offer a tongue-lashing for ghosters.