Saturday, July 4, 2020

True Independence Day: Toward replacing lemming thinking with free thinking

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Independence Day has a hidebound ring to it, evoking an event of 244 years ago. independence Day seems even less relevant in light of today’s growing suppression of independent thinking, yes regarding the deconstructionist triad of race, class, and gender, but far more broadly.

In an attempt to encourage more independent thinking on this Independence Day, my Psychology Today article today offers three other issues on which the marketplace of ideas is being truncated.

Friday, July 3, 2020

Traveling to Gain Insight? You may gain more at home

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To try to gain insight or solve a big problem, many people journey. It could be as short as a quick stroll or as long as a pilgrimage to the East.

Of course, some people return richly rewarded, whether with clarity on the career they should pursue, the relationship they should end, or a broader vision for their life: less materialistic or the converse—deciding that the life of idealistic poverty is more romantic as portrayed in the movies than in reality.

But across my many clients who have traveled for insight, most return empty. Yesterday, a client reported on his solo hiking getaway to June Lake, which is in a remote part of California. He said, "I’m still stuck, completely stuck.”

My Psychology Today article today offers some activities you can do without leaving home that my clients have found more helpful. Note that unlike journeying, in which the person tends to expect insight to just pop into mind, in these activities, you are actively working on the problem and so are more likely to generate something of value. Also, journeying has distractions: nature, tourist sites, etc. Each of the activities can be done at home, making it easier to focus on the problem.

Thursday, July 2, 2020

Passing the Baton: The art of succession planning When you want your expertise to have ripple effect after you're gone.

When I was 60, I put a paragraph on the corkboard next to my desk. It urged training a successor. 

Two days ago, I turned 70, reread it, and decided that although I’m in good health, if I wanted what I’ve learned over these decades as a career counselor to live on after I die, it was time to find and train an apprentice and possible successor. 

In hopes it might be instructive to you as you plan your succession, my Psychology Today article today offers what I’m doing:

Tuesday, June 30, 2020

On Birthdays

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Birthdays can evoke emotions, which vary widely over the lifespan. In my Psychology Today article today, I describe them as well as offer ideas on how to spend your birthday as you deem wise, not necessarily as conventional wisdom dictates.

Monday, June 29, 2020

Home in the Time of COVID: Appreciating and easily improving your home

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Previous installments in this series offered thoughts on how to make the most of pleasures that remain allowable amid the COVID lockdown: walking, reading, music, and eating. In my Psychology Today article today, we turn to home.

Many of us are staying at home more amid the COVID lockdown. While that may cause cabin fever, it also may afford us the  opportunity to appreciate and improve our home without undue cost, which in the economic shutdown may be more important than ever.

Sunday, June 28, 2020

Eating in the Time of COVID

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Previous installments in this series on making the most of pleasures allowable in the COVID lockdown addressed walking, reading, and music. Today we turn to eating.

No matter the restrictions, we will be allowed to eat. That’s fortunate not just because food is required for life but it's a universal pleasures, enjoyed by people of every stripe, not just now but since Eve ate The Apple.

Perhaps one or more of the thoughts I share in my Psychology Today article today might enhance your enjoyment of this most robust of human pleasures.