Hosting House Guests

Many people are hosting family or friends for the holidays. My Psychology Today article today offers thoughts on how to make the visit more fun than fraught.

Honor Your Mother and Father?

In these tough coronavirus times, we need to find the positives everywhere we can.

It seems like half my clients blame their parents for their malaise. “He called me stupid.” “She ignored me.” “They were overprotective.”

And indeed, much psychotherapy involves the search for parental causation of the client’s unhappiness.

In a small attempt at providing balance, my PsychologyToday.com article today offers questions that should unearth positives in your parents and guardians that can enhance your life or at least provide a bit of additional peace of mind as we go through the coronacrisis.

Family Dinner: An old-fashioned idea worth revisiting

“Dinner’s on the table!”

“Come on mom, just five more minutes!”

“So, what did you do in school today?”

“Nothing.”

“Eat your vegetables”

“I HATE vegetables.”

While troubling, such exchanges are more from an earlier era in which family dinner was virtually inviolate. Today, that glue of familial connection and problem solving is often but a memory from ancient Ozzie and Harriet TV shows. Families often graze individually, with one parent still at work, if only in the home-office. The exhortation to "eat your vegetables" is moot because the parent ordered in pizza, both because it’s easy and the kids prefer it to broiled chicken, broccoli, and quinoa. The kids pop open the pizza box (assuming they hadn’t earlier raided the fridge and are no longer hungry), grab their favorite slices, and abscond to their room so they can eat while chatting or texting on the phone, watching TV, playing video games, or just maybe doing their homework.

While there’s humor in all that, at the risk of being atavistic, I think individuals and families would be wise to try to make family dinner the norm. My PsychologyToday.com article today offers some thoughts on how to make family dinner work.