Fresh ideas about career, education, the life well-led, and improving the world.
Certitude is comforting but elusive, and doubt can provoke anxiety. Consider this composite based on my clients, friends, and me.
I worry…about almost everything. Did I buy the right thing? Was I too tough or too nice? How hard should I work? How hard should I play? How much should I trust that person, even my wife?! Help!
We can learn a lot about what to do next by looking at what we did before. At each life stage, what were your best and worst decisions?
It may help to evoke your ideas to see a sample. Here are my best and worst decisions, and lessons learned.:
It’s exciting to think big. But if you’re short of money or are risk averse, you may want to choose a shoestring competitor. My Psychology Today article today offers examples.
It’s wise to follow the rules . . . usually.
But as readers of my work know, I’m more a fan of the gray than of black-and-white. So my Psychology Today article today offer some admittedly anomalous composite examples of my clients breaking the rule wisely and successfully.
True, first impressions are often right. We’ve all said, “I wish I would have trusted my first instinct.” And then there’s the advice on taking multiple-choice tests: Trust your first answer.
But when should you reconsider? I explore in my Psychology Today article today.
I’ve gotten into a bad habit these last two days. After finishing my daily hike, I end up too close to Johnny’s Donuts. In the past, I’ve usually resisted but the last two days, I got a cinnamon roll, a big one. I’m too scared to Google-search to see how many calories, carbs, and sugar that cost me.
My Psychology Today article today tells you the thoughts that, ahem, rolled through my brain as I was eating it.
“Dream it and you can do it” is an appealing notion. But despite the myriad celebs who pitch such advice in media interviews, it too often turns out to be bad advice. Alas, our dreams so often exceed our abilities, drive, needed connections, or luck.
Rather than betting years and money on a long-shot, my clients have more often found contentment by pursuing a goal that, yes, is appealing, but that with effort, offers a good chance of success.
My Psychology Today article today offers composite examples of what my clients have done.
We tend to operate on autopilot but, especially with risk-taking, it’s wise to make decisions consciously. Answering these questions in my Psychology Today article today may help.
Recently, I described an approach to uncertainty that has worked well with my clients. Its acronym is RAD: Resolve, Accept, Distract: Do what you can to resolve the problem, accept the uncertainty of it working, and distract yourself to something productive.
My Psychology Today article today shows how RAD can be applied to six common fears.
Clarity is comforting while uncertainty can be disconcerting. For example:
Alas, there are no clear answers to such questions. So how can you deal with the uncertainty?
One approach that my clients have found helpful is RAD. I describe it in my Psychology Today article today.
Life is decision-making. Improving the quality of your decisions, of course, improve your life, both professionally and personally.
In my Psychology Today article today, I offer three concepts that good decision-makers, good thinkers, use.
