My client said he was reluctant to let his friends know he's looking for a job.
Rather than give him the ol' pep talk, for example, "Friends are a great source of job leads, and don't worry, these days, lots of good people are looking for work," I said, "Pretend you are your twin brother and your brother said, 'I don't want to let my friends know I'm looking for a job.' How would you respond?"
He ended up giving the same advice I would have given.
Then I asked, "What would you say back to your twin?" He said, "I know, but it's hard. I'll be embarrassed to tell them." I asked, "How would your twin respond?" His "twin" said, "Get a grip and grow up." He laughed at himself.
Advice-giving is so tempting but often fails to get results. Where possible, figure out a way to get the person to come up with the advice himself.