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Some female dominated fields can present problems for men. For instance, a male teacher may be asked to keep his classroom door wide open the entire day, causing his students to be distracted by noise coming from the hallway. Also, a man may be given the 'evil eye' when entering a faculty breakroom. Women love to unload on a variety of sensitive topics. A man might be asked to leave, even if he does have every right to be there.
Women like to marry high earners because of the flexibility it gives them. Some examples: greater career flexibility, the option of working part time, stay-at-home spouse, the opportunity to homeschool her children, etc.
Unfortunately, when a man has similar ideas and is open about them, he is criticized by his wife, family, friends, and society in general. How's that for equality of the sexes?
The average married man has few or no options. He can forget about becoming a law librarian in his firm. He's got to make 'partner' or his wife will kill him!
1. How likely would a man in a non-traditional career benefit from affirmative action? If men are as put upon as you say, I would think that discrimination against men in non-traditional careers is (un)consciously tolerated.
Of course, if a man really wants to pursue such a career, he should. But if he's still unsure about his next step, he should really know what he's getting into, and be prepared for possible discrimination.
2. There may be no rules anymore about who should be the primary breadwinner, and I know a few couples that have the woman, not the man, bringing home all or most of the bacon. But I don't think this section in your column would be necessary if men were not still assumed by many to be a couple's primary breadwinner. Would he be considered inadequate if he weren't?
Any particular advice for a single man in the workplace? They don't face the same challenges?
3. In my experience, a female-oriented workplace has male employees that, at least at work, act somewhat similar to their female coworkers. If a man that sees injustices speaks up at work, how likely will he get support from his fellow men?
4. If men are encouraged to play along, even if that means adapting to a female-oriented workplace, how will this contribute to a balanced workplace, where neither gender feels alienated?
5. A Day Without Men. That would truly be a sight. So much would be left undone, I can't imagine how long it would take to catch up on a day's work.
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Some female dominated fields can present problems for men. For instance, a male teacher may be asked to keep his classroom door wide open the entire day, causing his students to be distracted by noise coming from the hallway. Also, a man may be given the 'evil eye' when entering a faculty breakroom. Women love to unload on a variety of sensitive topics. A man might be asked to leave, even if he does have every right to be there.
On the income split -
Women like to marry high earners because of the flexibility it gives them. Some examples: greater career flexibility, the option of working part time, stay-at-home spouse, the opportunity to homeschool her children, etc.
Unfortunately, when a man has similar ideas and is open about them, he is criticized by his wife, family, friends, and society in general. How's that for equality of the sexes?
The average married man has few or no options. He can forget about becoming a law librarian in his firm. He's got to make 'partner' or his wife will kill him!
I humbly offer my comments:
1. How likely would a man in a non-traditional career benefit from affirmative action? If men are as put upon as you say, I would think that discrimination against men in non-traditional careers is (un)consciously tolerated.
Of course, if a man really wants to pursue such a career, he should. But if he's still unsure about his next step, he should really know what he's getting into, and be prepared for possible discrimination.
2. There may be no rules anymore about who should be the primary breadwinner, and I know a few couples that have the woman, not the man, bringing home all or most of the bacon. But I don't think this section in your column would be necessary if men were not still assumed by many to be a couple's primary breadwinner. Would he be considered inadequate if he weren't?
Any particular advice for a single man in the workplace? They don't face the same challenges?
3. In my experience, a female-oriented workplace has male employees that, at least at work, act somewhat similar to their female coworkers. If a man that sees injustices speaks up at work, how likely will he get support from his fellow men?
4. If men are encouraged to play along, even if that means adapting to a female-oriented workplace, how will this contribute to a balanced workplace, where neither gender feels alienated?
5. A Day Without Men. That would truly be a sight. So much would be left undone, I can't imagine how long it would take to catch up on a day's work.
Just my thoughts.
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